speaking about israel

with stanley wulf
why can't Diaspora jews
speak to each other about israel?

While political discussions among Israelis with a wide range of viewpoints are accepted as legitimate expressions of caring for the well-being of Israel, such discussions among Jews in the diaspora too often end in shouting matches that have torn apart communities, friends, and even families.

Dr Stanley Wulf is a retired physician who travels internationally to speak about the conflict in the Middle East and the difficulties we experience as American Jews in hearing and sharing differing views. The model he presents for these sensitive conversations centers on “The 3 No’s”, the 3 areas that most often lead to conflict, and how to avoid them. His approach includes the recognition of conflicting narratives in order to facilitate more constructive discussions.

Upcoming Presentation:


Dr Stanley Wulf is a passionate Zionist who is dedicating his retirement to working for Israel’s founding principles set forth in “The Declaration of the Establishment of the State of Israel” – that is, to maintain Israel as both Jewish and Democratic.

​Stanley was born and raised in Cape Town, South Africa. His formative bond to Israel occurred during the Six Day War in June of 1967, resulting in great pride in Israel, but simultaneously great awareness of Israel’s vulnerability.

​After completing medical school and internship at Groote Schuur Hospital in Cape Town, Stanley left South Africa in 1976 to complete his residency in Obstetrics and Gynecology and open a private practice in Los Angeles. Dr Wulf subsequently served as Chief Medical Officer for medical technology companies, and in 2009 he was chosen by his peers as one of the “100 Most Inspiring People in the Life-Sciences Industry.”​

Israel and Judaism were never far from his heart and mind. In 1987 he took 2 years off from medicine to study at the liberal Pardes yeshiva in Jerusalem, and he has served as President and as Treasurer of his modern orthodox shul.

With Shimon Peres, Former Israeli President

With Salam Fayyad, Former PA Prime Minister

The turning point in his approach to understanding the conflict in the Middle East came while supporting Cal Berkeley students in fighting BDS (Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions) resolutions on campus. After witnessing, night after night, the passion and conviction of both Jewish and Palestinian students, he experimented with another approach – trying to hear the Palestinian narrative. He came to realize that, while disagreeing vehemently with BDS, he could acknowledge the conflicting narrative without it destroying his own.​ Two years of painful re-calibration followed as Stanley realized that, as in any successful mediation or negotiation, understanding the “other” is a core requirement.

As a passionate Zionist convinced that a two-state solution is essential before Israel is demographically overtaken, Stanley began speaking to Jewish Communities across the U.S. in support of the center-left in Israel.  His experiences led to the development of his latest series of presentations and workshops on how to deal with conflict among Jews when discussing Israel.

Stanley is married with two sons.  They live in Berkeley, California and their family has a home in Jerusalem where they spend extended periods of time.


current presentations

  • Speaking About Israel
    • Jewish Narratives and the 3 No’s
  • If Not Two States, Then What?
    • If Not Now, Then When?
  • Could a One-State Outcome work for Israel?
  • The Iran Nuclear Deal
    • Was it a good or a bad deal?  What now?

prior presentations

  • The Gaza War and Its Aftermath
  • A Two-State Solution:
    • Why We Need It
  • What it Will Take:
    • Seminar on Borders and Settlements
  • What it Will Take:
    • Seminar on Security
  • What It Will Take:
    • Seminar on Refugees
  • What It Will Take:
    • Seminar on Jerusalem
  • The Gaza Wars:  2008, 2012, 2014, 20??
  • The Kerry Initiative:
    • What Went Wrong and Pathways Forward
  • A Two-State Solution:
    • Keeping Israel Jewish and Democratic
  • Mission to the Palestinian Territories:
    • From Ramallah to Rawabi


Here’s a short introductory clip, including Stanley’s thoughts on Limmud, the organization that “takes you one step further on your Jewish journey”

Speaking About Israel: Part 1​ (7 minutes)
"Introducing The 3 No's"

Speaking About Israel: Part 2 (11 minutes)
Illustrating the 3 No's while talking about:
"Why Israel needs a peace agreement with the Palestinians"

Speaking About Israel: Part 3 (18 minutes)
Illustrating the 3 No's while talking about:
"How close Israel and the Palestinians have come to a two-state agreement"

Speaking About Israel: Part 4 (12 minutes)
Illustrating the 3 No's while talking about:
"The aftermath of the third Gaza War"


"Very important dialogue in our community - should happen more"
"I appreciated the presenter's willingness to take hard questions"
"Fabulous. One of the best talks I've heard"
"Excellent! Presenter was organized, clear and knowledgeable and helped foster an understanding of a very complex situation"
Herzl-Ner Tamid Synagogue's Torathon Program. Seattle, Washington.
Organizer: Rebecca Levy
"Wulf's presentation is an excellent primer for discussion within the Jewish community"
"Best presentation I've heard - learned so much"
"Fascinating, balanced presentation"
"A dynamic speaker"

"A genius of a speaker"
"Humor and heart"
Was the program informative and engaging?
Attendee scoring:
4.8 out of 5
Was the program conducted with respect and civility?
Attendee scoring:
4.9 out of 5
Temple Sinai. Oakland, CA
Organizer: Beth Goldberg


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